Feeling Lonely!!!

Have you ever had the experience of feeling lonely, like there is no one around and no one to talk to, as you sink into a state of sadness or anxiety that you fear you will never get over? Does such a feeling overwhelm you at times? If you've had such feelings of loneliness, you are far from alone.

Many of us goes through this stage of loneliness - It's the state of being alone, a human emotion that is both complex and unique to each individual. but It may sound strange, but loneliness isn’t always the same as being alone. A person can be surrounded by friends, family and colleagues and still feel lonely. Loneliness can be described as the feeling of not having anyone with whom you can connect socially or emotionally.

I heard someone say once that 90% of good counseling is just talking out how you feel. It’s amazing how much better you feel when there’s someone you can talk to who totally understands what you’re going through. The person you are sharing with is like a human crutch to help you through a time of brokenness. It’s kind of like when a guy gets hurt on the football field injuring his knee. Few of his teammates get around him and help carry him off the field. That’s what happens when you have a broken heart. When someone is there, they can help strengthen you when you hurt the most.

But if there is no one for you who can take you out of this situation and make you feel better. At that time you just feel to leave everything and go away from each and everyone. Loneliness breaks you down and makes you weak. Loneliness widely affects us in different manner like - Depression, Increased stress levels, Poor decision-making, Alcoholism and drug abuse, Decreased memory and learning, etc.

People who has lack confidence in themselves often believe that they are unworthy of the attention or regard of other people, moving to a new location, divorce, being abused and rejected by others, being unable to fit in, broken heart or missing someone, social media, etc. can lead to the loneliness. 

Loneliness is considered to be dangerous and addictive. Once you realize how peaceful it is you don’t want to deal with people. Life is not a bed of roses nor is it a bed of thorns! But the hardest walk is walking alone. Loneliness is hated so much that it is called the biggest disease known to mankind. The pessimist feels that life is full of misery, loneliness and suffering and it is all over much too soon.

Try to remove it from your life -

• With some effort to nurture your current friendships and to engage in activities with new people, you can begin to strengthen personal connections and remove loneliness from your life. Get out in your neighborhood. Take your pets for walks and chat with people you meet along the way.
• Nurture your current friendships. In your rush to make new friends, don't forget about those you already have. 
• Focus on Your health.
• Bring Your old hobbies.
• Spend more time outside.
• Don't become dependent.

Is Loneliness good? Sometimes Loneliness inspires the individual! Pandit Jawaharlal Nehru, alone in his cell during incarceration, didn't waste time. He wrote “The Discovery of India” that became his magnum opus! All precious and great thing are alone! Loneliness does not mean that you are without company. It means that no one cares! In company you are likely to be subjected to praise or criticism. Hence it is better to be alone as nobody can hurt you. Never say you are alone for you are not alone. Your Good and genius is within.