Art of Love!!!
Our confusion leads to all sorts of unconscious and irrational behavior, uncomfortable feelings, and reactivity in our relationships. It can impact our ability to make or keep commitments. It can result in anxiety or withdrawal, even abandonment and betrayal. Confusion about love creates a lot of unhappiness. What we yearn for is something very particular. It’s often missing in our closest relationships. "We’ve wanted this simple feeling since we were born: it’s the feeling of secure, dependable love. " When children get this kind of safety and predictable care, they form a secure attachment bond with their primary caregiver. When they don’t, they develop what the psychological literature calls “adverse developmental effects.” We never outgrow this need to feel safe and secure in our relationships . We are designed to be deeply connected to someone we trust. All of us, whether infant, child, or adult, want to have our needs and feelings heard, and cared fo